“I love myself.” That sounds a bit silly (and I doubt anyone would ever say it out loud), but self-love isn’t reserved for the egomaniacs of the world. Finding the confidence to succeed (or even the courage to start) is very difficult if you don’t love yourself. If you’re ready to swoon your hot self, keep on reading.

“我愛自己。”——聽上去真滑稽，估計很少有人會大聲喊出來吧？不過，自愛并不一定就是自大狂。如果不愛自己，又怎能有勇氣邁開第一步或有信心贏得成功呢？倘若你已決定好好愛自己，那就繼續往下讀吧。

1. Stop Beating Yourself Up

停止苦逼

Would you say the things you think about yourself to another person? If not, you owe yourself an apology. How could you love a person who believes such nasty things about you? Even if you did mess up, get over it. Big goof that’s mostly irrelevant? Laugh at it. Serious mistake that had repercussions? Learn from it. The important thing is to drop your baggage and move on.

你會不會把內心對自己的那些看法用來評價另外一個人？如果不會，那你還欠自己一個道歉。你怎會愛上聽信有關你的壞話的人呢？就算你確實搞砸過，那也是過去了。難得犯了糊涂？一笑而過吧。犯了后果嚴重的錯誤？那就吸取教訓。重要的是拋開包袱，繼續前行。

2. Think Positive

積極思考

Focus on your strengths (instead of your weaknesses). Leap out of bed (don’t crawl out of it). Look at every day as a new opportunity (not the same old story).

不要老盯著缺點，而應多想想優點。要一躍而起，不可拖拉磨嘰。不要認為日無新事，其實每天都是新機遇。

3. Be Thankful

充滿感恩

Be aware of all the things you should be thankful for. Make note of the people, places, things and activities that bring you the most joy. If you slow down, you’ll realize you have an awful lot to be thankful for.

用心留意所有值得感恩的事情。記下那些給自己帶來快樂的人和事。只要放慢腳步，你一定會發現值得感恩的事情太多太多。

4. Learn and Grow

學習并成長

Developing your knowledge and skills will help you develop a healthy swagger and confidence that you can do anything.

擴充知識及磨練技能可讓你健全而充滿自信，要相信自己可以做好任何事情。

5. Accept Your Flaws/Quirks/Weirdness

接受缺點、怪癖和古怪

My penmanship sucks, I can’t ride a bike, I am only good at cooking three things (spaghetti/omelets/sandwiches) and I have an irrational fear of bees (which is so bad that I once drove my car into a stop sign after one flew into an open window on a summer day). And you know what? I wouldn’t change any of that. Be confident in yourself, no matter how “weird” (interesting and unique) you may be.

我寫字很難看，不會騎自行車，做飯只會三樣東西（意大利面、煎蛋卷、三明治），而且我特別害怕蜜蜂：某個夏天，一只蜜蜂從開著的窗戶飛進車里，結果我一頭撞上了路標牌。盡管如此，我還是沒改掉這些。不管有多古怪、搞笑或與眾不同，都要自信滿滿地做好自己！

6. Use Your Strengths

發揮優點

Think about the top three accomplishments in your life. I don’t care how big or little they are. It could be graduating college, landing a sweet job, getting your first business client, winning an award, losing weight, or whatever. Now write down the strengths you used to accomplish those three things. See any common threads that led to achievement? If so, the path to more success is right in front of you. Use the strengths that have been proven to work if you want to boost belief in yourself make your weaknesses irrelevant.

請想一下這輩子完成的三大成就，不論大小，可以是大學畢業、找到好工作、爭取第一位生意客戶、獲獎或減肥；然后寫下幫你實現以上目標的優點。有沒有發現取得成功的相似線索？若有，那么那條途徑也能引領你獲得更大成功。若想提高自信、淡化弱點，那就常常發揮行之有效的優點吧。

7. No More Comparisons

停止攀比

Forget about the celebrities you compare your body to, the relationships you contrast yours with, and the people you are so obsessed with pleasing. Life is not a competition. Your only goal is to become a better version of yourself.

不要再和明星比身材，不要拿自己的感情和別人的相比較，不要再一味討好他人。生活不是競賽，你只要做更好的自己就行了。