很多時候你只要是愿意一試，我們都可以做到甘地和德蘭修女那種地步。小編將這十種方式告訴你，相信只要你在生活中合理運用，一定會有所得。
1.話要想著說
Think before you speak
在開口說話前，確信你所說的話合適到足以禁得起放到社會媒體上檢驗的地步。說出的話要是過一會兒就后悔，那最好還是不要說。
Before you open your mouth to say something, make sure it’s something you would be proud to post everywhere on social media. If it’s something you might regret later, then maybe it’s better if you kept it to yourself.
2.明白根本就沒有一個“對的時間”
Realize there is never a "right time"
“等我找到一份更好的工作的時候”，“等我畢業(yè)后”，“等到孩子長大的時候”。沒有哪一刻能比現(xiàn)在更好。向你的目標邁出第一步，等待只會讓你的年齡增加，不會讓你變得更聰明。
"When I get a better job," or, "When I graduate," or, "When the kids are grown." There is no time like the present. Take that first step toward your goal. Waiting will only make you older, not wiser.
3.處理好個人利益和集體利益的關(guān)系
Balance self-interest with the collective good
在社會生活中，勢必要處理好“個人”和“他人”的關(guān)系。是的，你應(yīng)該顧及到自己的需要，但是你也應(yīng)該考慮到他人的需求。只要足夠用心，在這兩者之間你是可以找到一個平衡點的。
In relationships, there should be a balance between "self" and "other." Yes, you should care about your own needs. But you should also care about other people’s needs too. It’s a balancing act that can be achieved if you try hard enough.
4.正確看待一件事之前，不要妄下結(jié)論
Put things in perspective before you jump to conclusions
當你和別人鬧了矛盾，不淡定是很正常的，但是不淡定時最容易出問題。所以還是花點時間來平復自己，縱觀事情的總體情況，在你能正常思考時在回顧這個事件而不是回想你的假設(shè)。
While it’s natural to do that, problems can occur when you engage in conflict with another person before you calm down. So take some time to calm down, put everything into perspective, and then review the facts not assumptions when you can think more logically.
5.不要盲目接受現(xiàn)狀
Don’t blindly accept the status quo
每個人都在做的事并不意味著你必須要做。問問你自己是否真的想這樣做——這樣是不是一種明智的做法。通常答案都是否定的。
Just because everyone does something doesn’t mean you have to. Ask yourself if you truly want to do it – or even if it’s advisable to do so. Many times it’s not.
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6.不要讓別人的消極情緒影響到你
Don’t let other people’s negativity upset you
大多數(shù)人都會被他人的消極情緒所影響。最后，消極的情緒就會滲透到生活的各個方面，最終導致一個悲劇。控制好自己，不要讓他人的事情影響到你的快樂。
Wise people realize that they are always in control of their thoughts, feelings, and actions. Most people let others’ behavior affect them negatively. As a result, they let that negativity permeate their lives and make them miserable. Own your power and keep your happiness by not allowing them to change you for the worse.
7.行為不沖動
Don’t act impulsively
生活中，沖動就是容易讓人后悔。你沒有花時間思量一下整件事情，是很容易出問題的。明智的人都會在潛意識里做出可以讓事情朝著最好的方向發(fā)展的決定。
In life, acting on impulse can lead to regrets. If you don’t take the time to think things through, you might create problems. Wise people use a combination of their logic and intuition to come up with the best decisions possible.
8.接受本來的那個他
Accept other people for who they are
面對吧，大部分人都試著改變他人。事實上，這是沒意義的。人們本來就是那樣的。要是你不喜歡，你可以選擇結(jié)束關(guān)系，或者盡可能少和他相處，或者就只有改變你自己的態(tài)度。接受本來的那個他，你也希望別人能接受本來的那個你吧?
Let’s face it, most people try to change others. It’s really pointless. But it doesn’t work! People are who they are. If you don’t like them, then you have the choice to leave the relationship, spend less time with them, or change your attitude. Accept who they are. You want to be accepted for who you are, right?
9.封面很漂亮，但書未必
The cover may be pretty, but the book might not be
智者不會被一個人表面上的魅力、個性和好看的外表所蒙蔽。同樣的，就算是一個長得不漂亮，沒有魅力又沒有個性，給你第一印象就不好的人，智者也不會拒絕。換句話說就是他們會花時間去了解、去評判最真實的那個人，而不是只看到表面。
Wise people don’t get blinded by charm, personality, or looks right away. Conversely, they are also not turned off by anyone who is not beautiful or charming on first impression, either. In other words, they take the time to get to know people and judge them on their inner self, not who they appear to be.
10.不要去評判別人
Don’t judge others
除了以上的那些，真正的智者是不會評價別人的。他們會試著去體會別人的感受——站在別人的角度看待這件事，針對同樣的事情看看自己會如何處理。像智者一樣似乎很困難，但是你只需訓練你的思維方式，控制好你的情緒。
Above all else, truly wise people don’t judge. They practice empathy. Empathy is truly putting yourself in another person’s shoes and trying to see the situation from their point of view. However, all you need to do is train your mind and control your emotions.
