There are plenty of questions: How long this pain last? When will the empty feelings pass? But everyday no matter how you try to forget things, it’s still sweeping you like a sharp rake. You tried to continue with your daily routines but you are kept wondering, how long will I be feeling this?

你會有很多問題要問:傷痛要持續多久?空虛的感覺何時才能結束?但是,無論每天你多么努力想要忘記那些事情,它們仍然像鋒利的耙子一樣劃過心靈。你努力使自己專注于每天的工作但無時無刻想知道,這種感受還要持續多久?

Welcome to the world of broken hearts! But hey, don’t die but embrace yourself because you’re not the only one who is feeling this way.

歡迎來到“傷心世界”!嘿,不要感到漠然,給自己一個擁抱吧,因為不僅僅你一個人有這種感受。

I felt it, our parents were broken hearted before they met each other and had a successful marriage and even ended in a divorce as well. Reality bites but change is inevitable but suffering is a choice. There’s no easy way to fix your broken heart. TRUE!

我有過這種傷心的感受,我們的父母在遇到對方并且擁有美好的婚姻之前也曾有過絕望或傷心的經歷甚至也會離婚。現實會使你感覺心痛,但改變也是不可避免的,痛苦只是一種選擇。沒有簡單的辦法修復破碎的心。真的!

But with slow day to day, you would be healed and when that day comes you would thank the Lord for unanswered prayers. Here are some good ways to heal from a broken heart.

但是,隨著時間的推移,你的傷痛會慢慢治愈,當那一天到來的時候,你會感謝上帝。下面有一些能幫助你治愈傷痛的辦法。

Music is the language of the soul – listen to music, whatever kind of music. If you want to cry with the love song ok you can cry. But make sure you will drink water because you may dehydrate. Joke! You will just come to the point that you are tired of crying anymore. That’s because when you cry chemical imbalance in your brain slowly fades. Do you know crying is a good way to relax and it even cleans your eyes. Notice that when you cried for too long hours there would come a time that you would stop and feel better.

音樂是一種心靈的語言——聽歌吧,無論什么音樂都行。當你聽愛情歌曲時,如果你想哭,那就哭吧!但是,記得喝水,因為哭泣的時候有可能脫水。開個玩笑!你會哭厭倦的,那是因為當你哭泣的時候,大腦里的化學不平衡會慢慢消失。你知道嗎,哭泣是一種很好的放松方法,甚至能幫助你清潔你的眼睛。請注意,當你哭到一定時間的時候,你會停下而且會感到舒服多了。

Write and read – if you want to express do it in writing. Write to God I call it “knee mails”, and then you can burn it. Burning something is like a ritual that makes your subconscious feels you’re ending a chapter. Reading can relax your brain, so read.

寫信和讀書,如果你想抒發感情,那就寫信吧!寫給上帝,我把這樣的信叫做“膝關節郵件”,然后你可以燒掉它。燒掉某些東西就像一種儀式一樣,讓你下意識里覺得你正在對某些事情做一個了斷。讀書也能放松你的大腦,讀書也是不錯的方法。

Visit Poor Momma – maybe you have been gone for so long already, you forgot you still have a mother or good friends in your hometown. It’s time to visit them, this makes you feel refreshed with the memories of what you were long time ago – happy! With your family and friend’s support you would feel sympathized! As a human we want to be sympathized! Actually women handle break-up better than men because of the world sympathy. Girls can open up with anyone about their feelings and feel that there are people who still cared for them.

看望你的母親——也許你已經離家很久了,你都忘了家鄉還有你的母親或者好朋友了。現在正是去看望她們的時候,這會讓你回憶起很過已經逝去的快樂時光,也能使你重新振作起來。有家人和朋友的支持,你一定會得到他們的同情的!做為一個人,我們是需要同情的!事實上,相比男人,女人們更加會對待一顆受傷的心,因為她們懂得同情。女孩子能對任何一個人敞開心菲并且感覺到還是有人關心她們的。

Regain your faith by meditation – guided meditation helps, trust me. You know how? - Because through meditation you can listen to yourself. Your subconscious is already shouting S-O-S! There are plenty of guided meditations; I actually like Kelly Howell’s CD’s. I can relate to her ways because she’s a girl. Form a habit of listening over and over again. Forming a habit is 21 days or 3 weeks of continuous repetitions. You’ll be surprise of the outcomes.

通過沉思重新恢復你的信仰——相信我，引導冥想是有幫助的。你知道如何做嗎?通過冥想能夠聆聽內心的聲音，潛意識里你已經開始呼救了。有很多引導冥想，我自己就非常喜歡Kelly Howell的CD。我能理解她，因為她也是個女孩兒。養成堅持聽歌的習慣，堅持聽歌21天或者說三個星期，你會有驚喜的發現。

Treat and pamper yourself – when was the last time you had a body spa? What about your hair? When did the last time you went to a nail parlor? What about your wardrobe? This is the best time to go out and spoil yourself as long as you are following the rule of the thumb: Don’t spend what you can’t afford to lose.

寵愛一下你自己——你最后一次身體水療是什么時候?你的頭發怎么樣?最后一次去指甲美容店是什么時候?你的衣柜呢?這種時候是出門的最好時機，寵愛一下你自己，只要在自己的能力能承受的范圍之內就行。

Acceptance – accept the pain and deal with it slowly everyday not in bulk. God made the world in 6 days and rested in the 7th day, what more for you that you’re only His child? Slowly feel the grief, the start, the middle and the end. After that, you’d feel better and even more thankful about the break-up. Let go.

接受——學會接受痛苦并每天慢慢消化。上帝花了6天時間創造這個世界，在第7天用來休息，而你只是上帝的孩子。慢慢感受悲傷，從其開始到其結束。慢慢地你的感覺會好起來，甚至會感謝這樣的經歷。加油吧!

You still have life after the break-up as long as the world revolves. If a door closes, another opens up. Don’t be busy staring at the closed doors, it’s like close curtain already that means their story in your life already ended and you should move on.

世界在前進，你的生命也在繼續。當一扇門關閉的時候，一定會有另一扇門向你敞開。不要緊緊盯著那扇已經關閉的門，它就像已經合上的窗簾一樣，這段故事在你的生拿中已經結束了，你應該大步邁向前進。