We all face ill-wishers, when we set goals and begin to reach them, no matter at what stage we are now: sceptics, critics, people who taunt us or say that we won’t succeed in what we do.
當(dāng)我們設(shè)定了目標(biāo)并開始去實現(xiàn)的時候，不論我們目前處于哪個階段，我們都會遇到幸災(zāi)樂禍的人：有的人持懷疑態(tài)度，有的大肆批評，有的則奚落我們，或者預(yù)言我們在所做的事情上不會成功。
Such people are a very powerful force, because even with “innocent” jokes and comments they can make you slow down or even stop moving towards your goals.
此類人具有超強的影響力，因為即便說了些“毫無惡意的”玩笑和話語，他們就能讓你放慢甚至停下向目標(biāo)前進(jìn)的腳步。
How to deal with ill-wishers? Of course, they are all different, but here are a few good general tips:
如何應(yīng)對幸災(zāi)樂禍的人呢?當(dāng)然，他們各不相同，但是我們總結(jié)了以下幾條應(yīng)對一般情況的建議：
1. First, learn to identify them.
首先，學(xué)會認(rèn)清他們。
Sometimes we just do not realize that someone is our ill-wisher. They can be close friends or family members, so when they say negative things, we often believe them and take them to heart. You should remember that there is a big difference between realists and sceptics. Learn to listen to what others say, and note your reaction. If that upsets you and makes you feel depressed, then probably these people are your ill-wishers.
有時我們只是意識不到某個人是希望我們不幸的人。他們可能是我們的摯友或家人，所以當(dāng)他們說一些消極的話語時，我們通常會相信他們，把他們的話放在心上。你應(yīng)該記住，現(xiàn)實主義者和懷疑論者是有很大區(qū)別的。學(xué)會傾聽他人的話語，并注意你自己的反應(yīng)。如果他們的話讓你生氣，讓你感到沮喪，那么大概這些人就是希望你不幸的人。
2. Think maybe they are right.
思考一下或許他們是對的。
As was mentioned above, sometimes they are just trying to be realistic. They may have good reasons for their negative attitude. Take a step back and think objectively why they have doubts and see a real obstacle, and if so, then try to figure out how to overcome it. If you really want to reach your goal, you will find a solution. If your ill-wishers are certainly wrong, just move on.
如上所述，有時他們只不過試圖現(xiàn)實一些。他們或許有很好的理由來說明自己消極的態(tài)度。退一步，客觀地思考一下為什么他們有疑慮，認(rèn)清真正的阻礙。如果真是如此，那么努力找到戰(zhàn)勝阻礙的方法。如果你真的想實現(xiàn)你的目標(biāo)，那么你就會找到解決辦法。如果幸災(zāi)樂禍的人確實是錯了，那你就繼續(xù)前進(jìn)吧。
3. Reject any negative thoughts they bring.
不接受他們帶來的任何消極思想。
Enemies will always try to bring to you their negative thoughts, which can raise doubts about your rightness. Then it can grow and affect the way you feel about your goals. Stop these negative thoughts as soon as possible! Replace them with positive beliefs. Do not let them beat you!
敵人總是會試圖將他們的消極思想帶給你，這些思想會讓你懷疑自己是否正確，然后會慢慢影響你對自己的目標(biāo)的感覺。盡快擺脫這些消極的思想吧!讓積極的信念取而代之。不要讓它們打敗你!
4. Understand that you will always have enemies, and don’t take them to heart.
懂得你總是會有敵人，不要把他們放在心上。
In everyone’s life there is at least one enemy. You cannot avoid seeing them but you can avoid listening to them. Just smile and do not pay attention to their words. They will not be able to affect you if you ignore their words.
在每個人的一生中，至少會有一個敵人出現(xiàn)。你不可避免會看到他們，但是你可以避免聽信他們。只用微笑面對，不要在意他們的話語。如果你忽略他們的話，他們就不會影響到你。
5. Try to win them over.
努力把敵人爭取過來。
Sometimes ill-wishers are your close people and you can’t ignore them. If so, it is better to enlist the help of these people, rather than fight them. Try to do it as soon as possible. Tell them that it is very important to you, and you need their help. Tell them that you understand their concerns, but you really need a positive attitude and support. If they are your close people who care about you, they will become your best allies.
有時候，幸災(zāi)樂禍的人就是跟你很親密的人，你不能忽視他們。如果是這樣，最好就是謀取這些人的幫助，而不是同他們斗爭。盡快去爭取他們。告訴他們這對你很重要，你需要他們的幫助。告訴他們你了解他們的擔(dān)憂，但是你真的需要積極的態(tài)度和支持。如果他們是和你關(guān)系親密、關(guān)心你的人，他們會變成你最好的盟友。
