Everyone experiences unhappy times on occasion, but there is a big difference between experiencing a temporary bout of sadness and living a habitually unhappy life. That’s what chronically unhappy people do.
每個人都會時不時地覺得不開心,但是偶然覺得不開心和長期過著悲傷的日子是截然不同的。下面是長期不快樂的人經(jīng)常做的事情。
Even if you are generally a happy person, take a look at these seven habits to determine if any of them are keeping you from experiencing greater amounts of joy.
即使你過著開心的日子,也請看一下下面的這七個習(xí)慣,你也許會發(fā)現(xiàn),如果自己沒有其中的某些習(xí)慣,可能會更開心!
1. Playing it too safe.
過于保守
Don’t play it so safe that you put yourself in situations where none of your potential options satisfy your calling. Dream your dream, but also realize that you are more than just the dreamer, you are the point of origin for your dream’s reality.
過于保守的話,你的潛能就無法滿足你的心愿。要有夢想,但也要意識到你不僅僅是個夢想家,你還是夢想的現(xiàn)實起點。
Your dream is your creative vision for your future life. You must break out of your current comfort zone and become comfortable with the unfamiliar. Start smashing through those emotional barriers. Move forward. Life doesn’t magically give you what you want in your mind; it gives you what you insist upon with your actions.
你的夢想是你未來生活創(chuàng)造性的愿景。你必須走出當前的舒適區(qū),習(xí)慣你所不熟悉的內(nèi)容。打破這些情感障礙,往前走。生活不會奇跡般地給你想要的東西,它會給你你自己用行為堅持下來的東西。
2. Continuous self doubt.
一直自我懷疑
You will inevitably become who you believe yourself to be.
你不可避免地成為你想成為的人。
If you spend enough time saying, “I’m not smart enough, thin enough and rich enough,” it’s likely that you will someday be right. On the contrary, if you have the belief that you are smart enough, thin enough and rich enough now to take the next positive step forward, over time you will likely acquire the capacity to be these very things at your desired level of expectation.
如果你花了足夠的時間說,“我不夠聰明,不夠瘦,不夠富有,”很有可能有一天你會發(fā)現(xiàn)這是真的。相反,如果你相信自己夠聰明,夠瘦,夠富有,可以繼續(xù)向前邁出積極的一步,隨著時間的推移,你很有可能獲得為達到夢想所需要的能力。
3. Obsession with control.
迷戀控制
Sometimes people put too much interest into trying to control every tiny aspect of their lives. Learn to let go, relax and ride the path that life takes you. Try something new, take a chance, but above all, smile and enjoy the scenery.
有時人們過于喜歡控制生活中的細微方面。學(xué)著去放手,放松心情,去走前面的路。嘗試一些新的事物,冒冒險,但是最重要的,是微笑并欣賞途中的美景。
Freeing yourself from trying to control the insignificant things lets you experience more of the good stuff around you. The greatest joys in life are often the unexpected surprises that arrive when you are flexible and open to life’s twists and turns.
不去糾結(jié)微不足道的小事,你會發(fā)現(xiàn)身邊還有很多好東西。生活中最大的快樂,莫過于當你適應(yīng)了生活中的曲折時那不期而遇的驚喜。