A person with high EQ doesn’t often criticize people.

一個情商高的人，不會總是去批評別人。

That’s because criticizing usually doesn’t solve any problem.

因為批評往往并不解決任何問題。

Everybody wants to solve problems. It’s just that many people don’t know how. And criticizing doesn’t change this.

每個人都希望能解決問題，只是很多人并不知道怎么做，而批評并不能解決這種現狀。

Someone with high EQ knows this well. So they only make criticism when they can provide their solutions.

情商高的人知道這一點，所以他們只在能提出解決方案的時候才會給出批評。

And they don’t merely criticize. They will tell you how to make things better.

而且他們不會只批評，他們會說出怎樣讓現狀變好。

A person who does nothing but criticizing is just trying to find himself a sense of superiority .

一個僅僅只知道批評的人，其實是在給自己找優越感。

Someone with high EQ also knows how to see things from other people’s perspectives.

情商高的人還懂得從別人的角度看問題。

It’s not only taking care of others’ feelings. It’s also a means of getting what you want.

這不單單只是照顧別人的感情，它也可以是一種達成目的的手段。

Nobody really cares about what you want. And that’s why merely asking for things usually won’t get you those things.

沒有人真正在乎你想得到什么，所以單純的索要通常不能讓你得到你想要的東西。

If you want someone to help you, you should think about what his needs are and figure out how to make him think it’s good for him to help you.

想要獲得別人的幫助，你就該想想對方的需求，然后想想怎樣讓他們覺得幫助你是一件有利可圖的事情。

Someone with high EQ also knows how to listen to others.

一個情商高的人還懂得傾聽別人的話。

This is not just about manners.

這不光是一種禮貌的表現。

It’s a kind of philosophy of living.

這也是一種處世哲學。

One person’s mind is inevitably limited in some way. Knowing how to listen to others can broaden your horizon.

一個人的想法是有局限性的，善于傾聽他們的聲音能讓你的思維更廣闊。

A person with high EQ knows this just so well.

而情商高的人深深地懂得這一點。