Have you ever found yourself in the place to console anyone?

你有沒有遇到過需要安慰別人的時候?

Every now and then we see people get emotional around us.

時不時地，我們身邊總會有人出現些情緒上的問題。

Sometimes they experience tragedy.

有時候是因為他們經歷了慘劇。

Sometimes they just find out that life doesn’t go as they planned.

有時候，只是因為他們發現生活并沒有像他們計劃的那樣發展。

Either case, they feel sad and it seems natural for you to console them.

不過不管是哪種，他們心里都不好受，而你去安慰他們也顯得很自然。

But what would you say?

不過，你會說些什么呢?

Would you say "I understand you."?

會說：“我理解你?！?

In my experience most people would.

據我的觀察，大部分人都會這么說。

But don’t. Someone with high EQ would never say that.

但是別。一個情商高的人是不會這么說的。

Because it doesn’t console anyone. It only hurts and makes people angry.

因為這并不能安慰誰。這只會讓人更受傷，而且會激怒別人。

Everyone’s life is unique. Everyone’s experience is unique. Everyone’s feeling is unique.

每個人的生活都是獨特的。每個人的體驗都是獨特的。每個人的感受都是獨特的。

Don’t assume that you know anyting about anyone.

別以為你能理解別人的事情。

’Cause you don’t.

因為你不能。

Just like nobody really understands you. And you don’t want people to tell you that they do.

就像你也知道沒有人真的理解你。而你也不希望有人告訴你他們理解你。