Keep Your Dark Side From Running Your Life
太陽和黑暗云霧共存的心靈
“Dwelling on the negative simply contributes to its power.”
沉緬于消極事物，只會增強(qiáng)消極的力量。
Every light has darkness to balance it out.
有光明的地方，必定有黑暗以平衡。
People can be kind or mean or beautiful or ugly. We sometimes are compassionate or selfish, and at other times we feel safe or insecure, or confident or hopeless.
人們或善良或狡詐，或漂亮或丑陋。我們有愛心的一面，也有自私的一面。在不同的場合，我們或許對自己很有自信，很有安全感，但或許也會覺得絕望，充滿不安感。
Shove those negative feelings deep down like proverbial skeletons in the closet. Put those bad thoughts and desires in a box and don’t ever open it. But you can no more avoid dealing with your shadow than you can avoid using your left foot when you walk.
你可以把負(fù)面感情藏得嚴(yán)嚴(yán)實(shí)實(shí)的，就像那些不可告人的秘密一樣。把不好的思想和渴望都藏起來不外露，永遠(yuǎn)不要觸碰。但是，你不可能永遠(yuǎn)躲避著不去處理這些問題，就像你走路時(shí)，你不可能不邁出步子。
If you ignore your shadow, it will take on a life of its own. It will fester and eat away at you.
如果你忽視心中的陰霾，它將會永遠(yuǎn)的停留，并不斷壯大，最后完完全全地把你吞噬。
Here are some steps to get on the right track.
以下是讓一切走回正軌的一些方法。
Commit to Exploring Your Dark Side
致力于探索自己的黑暗面
It’s a trip that’s not always going to be nice and pleasant. You will find out things didn’t know about yourself, and many of them won’t be positive. You have to commit to the search for truth in order to minimize the impact your shadow has on your life going forward.
這趟旅程并不是讓人身心愉悅和一帆風(fēng)順的。你不能指望所有人都對你了如指掌，因此他們對你的評價(jià)也不可能全部是正面和積極的。你必須努力找出背后的真相，以減輕負(fù)面陰影對你人生的影響。
List Your Trigger Emotions
給觸發(fā)你不良情緒的東西列個(gè)表
Come up with triggers for destructive behaviors, such as frustration, loneliness, hunger, low self-esteem, nervousness, and the like.
想一下能觸發(fā)你做破壞性行為的事情，如挫敗、寂寞、饑餓、自尊心低下、緊張等等。
If you have multiple different behaviors you’re trying to work on, you will probably find that many of the triggers drive more than one type of behavior. It’s not intended to be a smack down; it’s designed to make you stronger and more prepared and able to handle future trigger events.
如果你有多個(gè)不同的負(fù)面行為，你將發(fā)現(xiàn)一個(gè)觸發(fā)點(diǎn)能引發(fā)你多個(gè)破壞性行為。這并不是要你指責(zé)什么，它們的出現(xiàn)只是為了讓你變得更加堅(jiān)強(qiáng)，做更多的準(zhǔn)備，并有能力應(yīng)對未來更多能觸發(fā)你不良情緒的事件。
Meditate
沉思冥想
A practice of seated meditation allows you a greater sense of neutral awareness of your own feelings, emotions, and desires. To learn how to manage those thoughts, so that when a negative or destructive emotion comes along, you can chose to just send it along on its way.
靜坐沉思可以讓你對自己的感覺、情感和欲望有更中立的意識。學(xué)會如何控制這些想法，那么當(dāng)負(fù)面的甚至對你有破壞性影響的情緒侵襲你時(shí)，你也可以從容選擇和它各走各路，互不干擾。
Observe Your Shadow
研究你的陰暗面
We’re now in a position to co-exist with our shadow.
我們心中的太陽和黑暗云霧處于一個(gè)共存的狀態(tài)。
【W(wǎng)e don’t have to fight it, because it has no power over us. We know it’s there, we know what it looks like, and we know what to do when it shows its ugly face. “Only in the recognition and acceptance of our shadow side can we become whole, integrated, reconciled, and therefore truly and fully ourselves.”
我們并不需要與自己的陰暗面作斗爭，因?yàn)樗鼰o法將我們打倒。我們知道它就在那里，知道它的真面目，我們也知道當(dāng)陰暗面顯露他丑陋一面的時(shí)候，我們也知道要怎么處理。只有承認(rèn)和接受自己陰暗面的存在，我們才算是一個(gè)完整的個(gè)人，那才是最真實(shí)的我們。】
生詞學(xué)習(xí)：
proverbial [英]pr??v?:bi?l [美]pr??v?bi?l
adj. 諺語的;眾所周知的，出名的;已成話柄的
skeleton [英]?skel?tn [美]?sk?l?tn
n. (建筑物等的)骨架;骨骼;梗概;骨瘦如柴的人(或動物)
adj. 骨骼的;骨瘦如柴的;概略的;基本的
minimize [英]’m?n?ma?z [美]?m?n??ma?z
vt. 把…減至最低數(shù)量[程度];對(某事物)作最低估計(jì)，
multiple [英]?m?lt?pl [美]?m?lt?p?l
adj. 多重的;多個(gè)的;復(fù)雜的;多功能的
n. 數(shù)倍數(shù);[電工學(xué)]并聯(lián);連鎖商店;下有多個(gè)分社的旅行社
meditation [英]?med?’te??n [美]?m?d??te??n
n. 默想;默念;沉思;冥想
co-exist [英]’k????gz?st [美]’ko???gz?st
vi. 共存
