It might seem like your dad will be around forever, but your time together can be cut short when you least expect it. Take advantage of the time you have with your father. Expressions of love are not always easy.They often take conscious effort.
有時(shí)候看上去你的父親會(huì)永遠(yuǎn)陪在你身邊，但當(dāng)你不經(jīng)意的時(shí)候，你們?cè)谝黄鸬臅r(shí)候被縮短了。好好把握與你父親在一起的時(shí)光吧。表達(dá)愛(ài)有時(shí)候并不容易，它們往往需要刻意的努力。
The parent-child relationship is one of the longest-lasting social ties human beings establish," says Kira Birditt, researcher at the Michigan Institute for Social Research. Whether your dad’s been in your life all along, or you just recently rekindled your relationship, there are many ways to show your dad you love him.
密西根州社會(huì)研究所的研究員基拉-博蒂特曾說(shuō)過(guò)：“親子關(guān)系是人類(lèi)建立維持的最長(zhǎng)的社會(huì)關(guān)系之一。” 不管你父親是一直在你身邊，還是你剛剛才重拾這份關(guān)系，始終會(huì)有很多的方法讓你父親知道你很愛(ài)他。
1. Say the words,"I love you."
說(shuō)出那句“我愛(ài)你。”
Maybe this phrase was not used much in your home, so it could be tough to utter at first. In that case, it’s possible your father won’t be able to return the sentiment. Don’t take it personally. The main issue is not to have regrets. Let your dad know what you admire about him and why you’re proud. Don’t take for granted that he knows.
可能這句話在你家里并不會(huì)經(jīng)常使用，所以一開(kāi)始說(shuō)出話可能會(huì)比較艱難。在這種情況下，可能你的父親也不會(huì)回應(yīng)相應(yīng)地情緒。但請(qǐng)不要在意，主要考慮的是不要留有遺憾。請(qǐng)讓你的父親知道你欣賞他的地方和你因他而自豪的理由，不要理所當(dāng)然地以為他都知道。
2. Seek your father’s advice and opinions.
尋求你父親的建議和意見(jiàn)。
This applies from childhood to adulthood. He’ll be pleased that you want his guidance. Listen to him. You don’t always have to agree, but he will be flattered that you asked.
這一條適用于從童年到成年的時(shí)光。如果你尋求他的建議指導(dǎo)，他會(huì)很高興。請(qǐng)聽(tīng)聽(tīng)他的建議，你不一定總是要同意，但你問(wèn)他的話他會(huì)受寵若驚。
3. Invite your dad into your life.
邀請(qǐng)父親進(jìn)入你的生活。
Introduce him to your friends. Once you leave the nest, welcome him into your new home. When you marry and have children, include your father in many of your family functions.
把他介紹給你的朋友們。一旦你離開(kāi)家，請(qǐng)歡迎他加入你的新家。當(dāng)你結(jié)婚和有了小孩時(shí)，要把你的父親當(dāng)作是你家庭的一部分。
4. Arrange activities strictly for you and your dad.
為你和你的父親特別安排好活動(dòng)。
Even if it’s an activity you might not fully enjoy, share his interests. Let him teach you to play golf or a card game. Take him to dinner, or join him in outings with friends and family.
即使可能是一個(gè)你完全不喜歡的活動(dòng)，但請(qǐng)你分享他的愛(ài)好。讓他教你打高爾夫或是橋牌游戲。帶他去吃飯，或是和他一起與你的朋友和家人去郊游。
5. Visit your father on a regular basis.
定期地去拜訪你的父親。
Stop and pick up a cup of coffee to take to him as a surprise treat. Don’t’ wait for his birthday or Father’s Day to buy him thoughtful little gifts.
放下手上的事情，拿起一杯咖啡去見(jiàn)你的父親給他個(gè)驚喜。不要等到他的生日或是父親節(jié)才給他買(mǎi)個(gè)深思熟慮的小禮物去見(jiàn)他。
6. Inquire about your dad’s life.
多打聽(tīng)你父親的生活。
Ask him to tell you his "old stories" and record them. He will be proud that you care so much, and as a result, you will learn a lot about his childhood and your heritage.
請(qǐng)求他給你講他以前的故事并記錄下來(lái)。他會(huì)因?yàn)槟汴P(guān)心他而感到很驕傲，并且你也可以了解更多的關(guān)于他童年和你的祖輩的事情。
7. Assist your father as he ages.
隨著他年齡增長(zhǎng)，你要多幫助他。
Don’t treat him like a child. Be patient and understanding. Make sure he can meet his personal care and medicinal needs. Help him with his finances, if possible. Take the time to let him know you’ll always be there.
不要把他當(dāng)成個(gè)小孩子，要耐心和多理解他。確保他能得到個(gè)人護(hù)理和藥物需求。如果可以的話，在經(jīng)濟(jì)方面也多幫助他。多花些時(shí)間讓他知道你永遠(yuǎn)都在他身邊。
